Money Can’t buy happiness…or can it?

bit of happyThis is the generally accepted foresight. Is this wisdom initiated by someone without money? There are studies that confirm this foresight, while there are those that oppose it, saying yes, being rich or wealthy helps with happiness. What are your thoughts. Have you been on either side?

Well maybe it can’t buy happiness, but it could make you less sad, for the time being. I mean, think about it.  You wake up with money in your bank account.  Maybe you still even have to a little work to keep that moolah flowing.   You are have an ehhh day, like we all do on occasion. You do your duties and then decide to go off for a spa day. Facial, Body Wrap,Massage, light lunch.  A couple of hours of being pampered at that awesome new Day Spa.  400 bucks and your feeling a little better, right?  And if your a guy, think of how you could occupy your crappy feeling day, to make you feel better.  What would you do? Take friends out for some roof top golf and lunch or dinner? That’ll be about $400 too. But your feeling better right? All bets on your friends feeling good too.

And sometimes that’s just what we need. Something different in our day, a good laugh, our mind of what we may not even be sure, and if you’ve got the money, possibly a new car. So yes, I think it is easier to have money to temporarily lift feelings of sadness or woe. But does this last?  Can it be done without money?  What if your filthy rich and able to satisfy feelings with purchases and items and then one day go broke, then what?


This all being said, I think I will explore the root of happiness and what that is in my next few posts.  Without focus on money, riches, or any of the sort.  Just some basic, foundational, root causes of happiness.  That way whether rich or poor, we explore the core of what that is.

I will be interviewing, Vivian style, people that I come across whether that be at work or when I’m running errands or engaging in services. My question will be “what is happiness from your perspective. What are the roots of happiness to you?”

Stay tuned to see where this goes.  It may be a wild ride(read)….or a Happy One!



What is Rich to you?

What Does Rich Mean To You?

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What does it mean to you? What is wealth to you?  Does it have to mean one thing?  I don’t think so, but to you, possibly it does.I ask this for you to ponder. Maybe many things play a role in the answer to this question. Life experiences, social pressure, desires, and more.

  • Is Richness Money?
  • Is Rich necessarily so Black and White?
  • Is Richness Family?
  • Is Rich your Freedom?
  • What drives you to go after your riches?

And so we shall explore.

I grew up with a lack of money.  My parents came from two different sides life.  My father, dark hair, and dark eyed, comes from a “hispanic” background, and grew up without money (Poor to some).  My mother, blonde hair, and blue eyed, comes from a “caucasian” background, and grew up with money(Rich to some).  They met when they were young, 19. Times were in a progressive state, but they both felt the intensity of an interracial marriage.  My dad was poor, but a proud, hard working man, that vowed to take care of my mom and not accept help from his “wealthy” father-in-law.  My mom naive and loving, wanted everyone to be happy.  To her she found wealth in the love she found for the man she married, my father.  She didn’t care about not having money, or the fact that her tacos were sloppy joe mix in a store bought taco shell…..remember my dad comes from “real taco”. She simply wanted to be with him. Near him. She found richness in my father and what she wanted her relationship to be.  By the way, for any newbie taco cooks, check out my extras page for a great taco recipe. It’s more traditional and a suggested try.

My dad was out to take care of his new wife, and they had a bun in the oven (me), so humans were multiplying and that meant more money was needed.  The stress to provide and show my Poppy, his father-in-law, that he could provide, was in full swing. There were nights he just needed a break. Beers with the homies, the cousins. Finding a balance with a pregnant wife, a baby on the way, working, being so young and the tight monetary situation, left him a bit “strapped” in more ways than one.

What’s my point in sharing this?  Well the beginning of many, as my mom and dad were two people that impacted the way I view rich.  From the many re-tellings of how my mother and father began, my mom felt as though she was the “richest person”, with her new husband, the love of her life. She felt this richness, even though materialistically she was poor, they were poor. But did my dad.  Maybe, but I have not heard him tell that story. I’m not saying he wasn’t happy, but I don’t necessarily believe he would have called that rich, as my mom did.


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