Today I’m not sure what will make me happy

Errrrrr. My opening statement. It’s nothing and everything today. I’m not sure how I feel about anything. Have you ever thought, ok well if I could make something different or had the means to do anything or go anywhere, what would I do, where would I go and what would I want?  And then you realize that there is not a damn thing that sounds appealing, fun, or would benefit you.  I mean not even a trip to an exotic land with the capability to sit and do nothing but absorb your surroundings.  Or a trip to Paris to drink wine and visit extravagant museums.  Well non of it sounds like it will bring me out of this funk.  Not even a few million dollars randomly dropping into my lap as I sit outside and wonder, what the hell.

I’m not depressed, I’m not mad, I’m not stressed, although I could be.  On a brief side note, I had a slow leak under my kitchen sink last month. It created a water mess.  We got it all cleaned up, or so I thought. My boyfriend has been feeling light headed and had a few weird symptoms…so long story short someone was telling us about the health issuesthat mold can bring about, if it’s present.  We had a mold inspection done and whatdoya know, we’ve got mold.  Mo’ mold mo’ problems…haha. Well we have this water damage company coming up out to today to clean out some mold.  So yousee, I could be stressed, but I’m not.

I just don’t feel like any one thing could lighten me up.  Call it hormonal, call it life, call it crazy, call it “need to tune into Vivian”, call it whatever, but I call it “money can’t buy my happiness” right now, I feel as if nothing can. Continue reading Today I’m not sure what will make me happy

Maybe Money Can Buy Happiness

So I begin this by stating that I was doing my own research to see if there’s been a study on money “buying” or being part of happiness.  I came across a blog Thomas C. Corley spent five years studying the habits and behaviors that 177 self made millionaires, and 233 poor people learned from there parents. This was after reviewing a survey conducted that found that 80% of American adults suffer and struggle from being jobless, living in poverty, and relying on welfare assistance, for at least a portion of their lives. Obviously this stress has to wreak havoc on the children as well.  And so his study began.  And so my thoughts began….

Happiness isn’t about money or no money.  Happiness is state of mind created by the perceiver. Depending on who you ask or speak to, this will change immensely.  If you ask a mother, she may find her happiness in the way she fulfills her children, a sparkle in their eye.  If you ask a single man, he may say quietness on a lake, while he throws his line to catch his dinner for that star filled evening.

There are basic needs to be met by every human.  Whether you study Tony Robbins and the six core needs he identifies, or Maslow’s Hierachy of Basic Needs, there are essential needs to meet.  These needs do not require money.  What I’ve found when speaking with people that have pursued growing their bank account or cash flow, is that in order to do so more times than not they met their basic needs. In creating that balance and pursuing their own growth (a need by both Maslow & Robbins), they develop their own happiness, as well as a large bank account.  The happiness is not found in the money.  There too, are many people that have the luxury of money, without a priority of needs being met.  I believe then it is fair to say that money cannot by happiness.  It may prove to be your immediate fix for a quick happy bit, but true, deep happiness is not present, and at some point the realization will be met and felt.

Poverty or even low funding in life can create many, many feelings. Today’s society has much opportunity and little opportunity for financial growth, and that is a frustration in itself.  That being said some of us are born into poverty, some of us create it for ourselves….at times trying to buy happiness, and some of us have to always push to keep our head above water. Being in the position to constantly push brings about constant stress and struggle, unless you manage it well.  If you do not meet your basic, or core life needs, then true happiness will not be found.  It can be very difficult when the struggle to keep a home, energy bills, kids clad in the clothing that they deem acceptable, medical bills paid, car paid, and all the rest are present.  Money can make it easier to focus on taking care of your needs. You however cannot buy the power to fulfill those needs, so please do not get confused.

My point of all things written above is to get you to explore….are your needs met? Read more about essential needs.  Are you holding yourself back from fulfilling them?

Money can make life easier, and if you’ve connected with happiness, maybe even happier.  It cannot buy our essential needs of life.  In pursuing money we are able to meet some of these needs.  Just understand core happiness is not money, in my belief anyway.


Money Makes Me Happy

Many of my past posts expressed lean towards money not necessarily creating happiness . Today I write from the perspective that “hell ya money makes me happy”.  Not my perspective per say, but from Brady’s perspective.  Brady is one of the owners of I just hired them to come out and clean my carpets because my animals (dogs) have done some work on them!  Anyway, Brady is a super nice guy and they did a killer job on my furniture and carpets.  Anyway, I offered him a drink and a homemade oatmeal raisin cookie, that yes I made.  While he took a quick break to eat my delicious cookie, I asked him questions about his business. How long he owned it, all that good stuff. Then I asked him do you think money buys happiness.  His immediate response was a grin and a yes of course.  I asked him to explain.

In answering all my questions, he told me he’s owned and sold six businesses.  He worked hard on all them and then turned around and sold them.  As he learned different things along the way, each one he sold, he made a little more money. His carpet cleaning business now, is his 7th to own and be part of the operation.  He told me that each time he made money from one of his businesses, he would invest some and spend some.  Brady told me, I love money. I like spending it, sharing it, and making it. Continue reading Money Makes Me Happy

You don’t want more $$??

I know a man named Tom.  Tom is married to Cindy. He is a general contractor specializing in Concrete, in a small town.  All different types of concrete. Did you know you can make concrete look like tile?  Well you can. You can also make it decorative in all sorts of ways. He says concrete is an art, his art.

I didn’t ask Tom what happiness was to him, but I asked him if he wanted to expand his business more.  If he had more help would he want to grow again.  You see, he was very “successful” at one point in getting his business to generate 1.5 million annually in sales, in a small population.   He was bringing in the money, able to purchase the things he never thought he would, never had at any other time. He grew up without money.  So the flow of dough was a new thing for Tom.

Two of his children, although grown, needed some financial assistance and Tom provided that. And then they needed a little more.  He says they realized dad could help out and knowing that kept them “at the nipple”.  His oldest grew up in the struggle.  There was not extra money to help her out. If she wanted to go to college, and both Tom and Cindy were all for that, then she had to work hard and get a scholarship, or a job to pay for it.  He told me that she was a little go getter.  She even started saving her money to buy them (him and Cindy) a car.

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